Society Culture

As you are growing up, becoming an adult meaning you have more responsibility. You have to get good grades, get high pay job, pay the bill, take care of others, buy big house, make money and being successful. Thus, being successful is define as making a lot of money. I believe this is what we learn from the society since we are being educated. Sometimes I just wish I don’t have to buy this culture. I know exactly what I want to do with my life, I have a dream.

“Hey wait, you have a dream? I have a dream too, but you know what? Every dream need money to achieve. You want to see how the reality slap on our face? HA!”

From my perspective, successful is depends on what we value and how we think about our value. We are not suppose to let the society determine those for you. Don't let the society changes you, hold on your value and your dream. I believe there’s always a way, it’s just depends on our attitude. One said, attitude is the painting of our life. You have got the right attitude, your life will be on the right track too. I keep on trying to achieve my life goals as I want to writes, take pictures, make my parents life better and go for backpack. Then I realized I need money to achieve.

“It’s okay, let’s see how far you can go. Show them your potential.” I told myself.

Starting off very aggressively, the fire is burning high, wow everything is on good progress. I realized the business is making money and then I put more effort on it. Then I sacrifice more and more time into it. Since I have more job to do, I have no more time for my interest, my dream, my goal. My life is like doing job more than doing my interest. From times to times, I started to feel lost and discourage.

I don’t know why, I’m just stuck. I just feel unhappy and don’t know what I’m doing with my life.

 I “look back” at the beginning part. Everything I did right now is for my goals, does this mean I’m still on the right track? I’m lost, but I can’t give up of my job, because I’m scared that I can’t be successful to my dream.

The world is just ruled like this, everyone is following, in order to achieve dreams you have to follow the rules too, this is the fact that you can't change. When it comes to you, you know there's a differences. You have a dream, and you need money to achieve. Just when you are making money to achieve your dream, your dream seem getting far away from you. The reality is digging you into the soil, while your dream is flying up high in the sky.

At the end, I'm still lost in this society culture.

Book review

This week I want to talk about book review. I read The Fault in Our Stars recently. TFIOS is a love story between the girl Hazel who have lungs cancer and a guy named Augustus who have cancer before, but now Augustus has lose one leg and recover from cancer. The story also talk about family, friendship and death. As I was reading book about death and I really have dilemma to finish the book, because I think at the end the book character will die and I don't wanna see them die. 

TFIOS is a very emotional book, you can see Hazel is suffer from breathing but she still trying to live hard, she like a book from writer Peter Ven Houten very much. And one day, she got a chance to visit this writer with her lover August in other country, but things doesnt go smoothly. As Hazel situation become worse. In the journey, they all learn a lot. After they return to home country, Augustus cancer is back, and then two of them have to support each other without knowing when the date will be end. This is not a cliche love story, in fact, the character know they are dying and they always talk about death, life, galaxy, family, society, even though they are just 16, but they always inspired me.

One thing that I have got inspired in this book is,

 "You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world, but you do have some say in who hurts you."(quote from my favorite line)

You have the choice to allow who could hurt you. And most of the time, people are hurting themselves with self-pity and insecureness. 

I think this is because the society have lack of Love (my last post is about the caring of society). You know, without love, we are all birds with broken wings. 

One of the book character once said, 

"there's only two feeling in this world, love and fear."

Is that true? I can't say. 

Augustus fear of oblivion.He is afraid if he is dying with his cancer return, days after day, people will forget him, then he tried to do extreme thing and pretend to live a normal life.

Human fear of oblivion, as though the universe want to be noticed. 

But we all will not be remember by all the human. 

Eventually, we will forget by the people

 so why do we fear of the thing that we can't change. We cant be remember to the people forever, but we do live in our friends and family heart although we have gone. Because this is love and this is more than enough to remember.

Hazel fear of being a "grenade".
She always avoid interact with people especially her parents, because she is afraid if one day she died, the "grenade" explode, her parents cant live/move on without her. She love her family and doesnt want her family to be sad in the future, she always tried to avoid love. But I admire her for her strength towards her cancer. She understand the meaning of life, Without pain, how could we know joy.
At the end, Hazel and her parents solve the problem, and they cherish every moment that they had. I know, her parents'll always be grateful of had-having the moment with Hazel.

Some time people think, love is gone since the person is gone? No. the thing I learn from Hazel and her mom is,

we don't stop loving the person although he/she is not with us anymore. 

Love could beat oblivion, distances, times and all.

Caring the society

One day, my friend and I was shopping in the mall, suddenly a voice of crying caught our attention from a distance. We were distracted from the crying therefore we went looking around to find out what is happening. We got to the front and we saw a pair of mother and son. The mother was talking to another person, while the little boy was crying and moaning at the same time. The little boy was wasn't like little kid throwing temper in the public, in fact he seem like suffering, having trouble to express himself, he was sobbing, moaning out loud and mumbling. What makes me confuse more is that the mother have no response to her son at all, she just keep talking to her friend, seem like she have get used to this situation. We watch from afar the mother and son, trying to figure out the situation, then my friend pull me away. 

She said: "let' just go, can't you see that child is a special kid? Don't look at him, he cant take the pressure of attention, and he will become more aggressive, hurry up, don't make people feel hard."

So, my body has move away with my friend, but my heart still stays in the previous scene. I wonder have any of you encounter such a situation before? I wonder what is the best response or reaction? I cant help but keep examine myself deep inside, if only I have the courage to go forward to care for the child, taking some time for the child and send him some love, pamper his emotion or even a simple hug is more than enough.

This is today's society attitude, everyone is cold-hearted, unconcerned. Dont you see that, when people encounter this kind of situation, how would people deal with it? Some people say: "of course we leave, what if the person suddenly got fed up and harm all of us?“ , some people hold the attitude of ”I'm just gonna walk away, it's non of my business tho.",  perhaps there are other people like my friend, with "don't hurt someone with their scars" attitude, in order to let that person and himself/herself to feel better they will pretend as in they do not know anything and ready to leave in silence.

Where is the love of the society?

What can we do to make the society feel more love and heartwarming? I bet we all have encounter the situation where we having meal outside and some NPO people come and ask for donation. I tell myself, next time instead of frowned to that person, I would just smile, nod and say thank you, simple enough. Always smile. All these small action would definitely brighten up someone day. Let's warm up this society from our little caring action.

Look back

Life have been changing all the time. 2015 is a very different year of mine. I've lose my beloved grandma, my degree life have started, I had car accident, and then I'm getting a new car soon,  I have occupied for a few part time job, got myself busy with studies and working, and then now I feel my VIPs is far away from me now. It's just March, time flies and everything seem to have changed. Degree life is unavoidable busy with assignments, presentation, exam, nevertheless having few part time job on hand, my schedule is fully packed. We all know time management is always important, as I'm always trying to settle the urgent and important stuff and hopefully one day my to-to-list can be clear off. But hold on, when was my last conversation with my best friend? How's my family doing today? We are winning and losing at the same time? It's like you are earning money but you are leaving your real treasure behind?

I always remind myself to LOOK BACK. I'm not meaning that look back to the past. We don't look back to the past, because it's only make us keep struggling about the things we can't change, and then it make us couldn't move on at all. In fact, look back means look back to the initial point of your chosen path.  Look back to the initial part, why had we make such choice? Remember? Are we still on the same path? Are we heading to the wrong path unconciously?

Sometimes people need guide. We can be guidance for our own. Then, looking back is how I guide myself. Look back to the initial part make me realize how my life have changed. Look, I'm working hard for money but also I realize I'm losing my friends and family. Isn't it scary? When you have become successful but no one is beside you to share the joy of achievement. That's why I think it's good for us to look back the beginning of us, so we could make adjustment and turn back to the first path. As everyone is working hard for their family, we can't just forget or leave our family behind then buried ourselves in work. Isn't it contradict? Isn't family is the reason why you work so hard? People are lost sometimes, when we having putting effort for a long time, we have become numb, looking back to the initial part make us realize. Make some time just for your loves one, let all the work alone. Life is like riding a bicycle. To reach the destination we have to keep ourselves balance. So I said, balance your life. Balance your life with studies, career and relationships. Of course, don't wait until it's too late to hold on your important thing in your life.  Always remember what is your initial dream. At the end, even though my life had changed but me myself is still the same person who holding the same value, that's how I define success. Successful people don't just go through life, we grow trough life. =)