What colour do you see?

One day, my younger sister came to me while I was surfing net in my room. I was thought she is going to ask me some school stuff but in fact she asked me an unexpected question.

My sister ask me, " Jie, what colour do you see in this world?" 

Woah, this is such a deep and interesting question.

At first, I was surprised because my sister is the one who asked me this question.She never ask me this kind of question before, like out of nowhere. What happen to her? In fact, we often chit-chat about daily stuff like study only. I never know my sister would have such deep thought.

I stopped my work on the internet, and we started talk about the topic that she pick up.

The first thing that came to my mind is rainbow. I personally think this world is colored, the world is full of surprises, it is always depend how you view this world, they said this world is full of beauty, we just lack of the eye of observation. That's why I always seek for inspiration and motivation, and those little thing always caught me with surprise.

My sister told me, what she used to see from this world is grey color. She said, "people are so materialistic, unreal, relationship is fragile, everyone is frowning instead of smiling. I'm taking all the blame all the time, no one would try to understand me or listen to me. I rather stay in my comfort zone, forever. "

 I feel bad for her, maybe she been facing a lot of discouragement since young and misunderstanding from family and friends. When we are young, something broken in the house, the adults would never ask but directly blame on her because they think my sister is naughty kid. This is not fair. We came from a big family, the adult often compare me, my sister and the other kids together, They never appreciate of the good side of my sister, from times to times, my sister change from the happy go lucky kid to the quiet antisocial girl. I feel this is part of my responsibility too. Since I go to high school, I met more friends and I reject to play with my sister, I went out everyday and left my sister at home everyday. 

I'm not being a good sister. I feel so sorry. Sometimes, I think a person personality is really depends on  how the family raise he/she. I just feel education is not only important about knowledge but personal development too. The school, family especially parents should know how to raise your kid to be a good man,  train your kid to have more confidence, more understanding to people and kind, instead of sending them to tuition from day to night.

Last but not least, I wanna  "paint" my sister world from grey to rainbow. Now our life have changed. We use to talk about friendship, study, I take the first step to understand about her life, her perspective of everything, I ask her to join my baking day, my outing, and we talk about stupid little things. Many things happen make me realize family is always the priority.

say Thank You

 Do you say Thank You to people who had being helpful to you? Saying Thank You shows our appreciation and our gratefulness. It is not only about manners matter, but a good habit to say Thank You to people around you. 

During a travel, “Thank you” this word are frequently used, people tend to learn how to say "Thank you" in that foreign language before travel, for example Bahasa Melayu “Terima Kasih”, Tamil “Nanri”, Frenches “Merci”, Spanish “Gracias”. Why are people practicing this even before they travel?  because during their travel they can use this to communicate especially the travelers often need help from the locals. Does this mean we don't need help with our people? Are we saying Thank You to them? I'm not saying we say Thank you only when we need helps from others, the meaning of saying Thank you means we appreciate their help. People able to learn how to say Thank you in a short period of time(travel time), I bet it is not difficult to say thank you to people around us with our mother tongue. Imagine travelers smiling to ask for direction from the locals, and thank them sincerely, I’m sure the whole trip will goes smoothly, and the travels will enjoy the entire trip.

Actually, everyone should practice a habit to say Thank you to someone who have helped us, it is good to show our thankfulness and appreciation. Saying “Thank you” makes a difference. It takes less than one second to say Thank You but this magic word can definitely make your whole day and you are actually putting a smile on that person too. Even to waitress, they serve us food and provide services to us, a simple Thank You to them can makes people feel great about their job. Some people may having an attitude and say “we pay for the service, why should we say thank you? It is their job”. Honestly, basic manners is what the society really need nowadays, saying Thank you not only make us a better person but also a better society with full of love. Hopefully everyone can say Thank you to each other and appreciate our society more. Don’t take things for granted, spread positive vibes, and everyone life will be happier. Cheers! And Thank you for your time to read my blog! =)

Stages of life

Late night conversation, where we confess our point of view, our deep thoughts and what do we truly value in our life. From that, late night conversation make us learn a lot about people, make us know more about ourselves. I stay up late talk to my friend last night and the conversation make me realized that, there are different stages of life. At this age, we all are growing up. We facing many different struggle, we make a lot of important decision at this age, it is the stage where we change our mindset and eventually it change our life.

How would you feel if you find out your boyfriend been cheated on you for almost 3 years and he still pretend like nothing happen before? My friend is facing this problem recently, her boyfriend take everything for granted yet don’t feel guilty at all. Now, just one question, are you going to let go of him, set yourself free? Your answer maybe yes, maybe no. If I were you, if I was still at the adolescence stage where I believe love is everything, maybe I will forgive him and continue this relationship. Even though the friends discourage my decision, my family blame on me, the world is about to abandon me, but still all I want is just him.

But now, we all have grew up as an adult. I realized family love is irreplaceable, your family love you so much, why you want to be the one hurting yourself? No one can hurt you unless you allow them to do so. If only this kind of thing happen to me, my choice would be different. I will have enough courage to let go of that relationship and start everything new. Hopefully, my friend will face the truth, and face herself honestly.

It takes time, it takes your courage. As we grow up, we have change our mind, we should have become a better person, become a more mature person. At the different stage of life, we think differently. Life is lifelong progress. Everything happen either for a reason or a lesson. We have learnt so much in life, separation, quarrel, ups and downs, always remember what matter to you the most from the beginning till the end, and don’t spoil your priority.